As a dementia carer to my wife of almost 57 years – and the lady who is the love of my life – I feel that I am never off duty for the need for care is constant.

Dementia has caused so many changes in her patterns of thinking and recall.

Her dementia seems to cause her to be hot one minute and cold the next. Usually, I am Henry but I cab suddenly become a figure of suspicion, an inpster who has spirited Hebry away. Our children’s names are often confused or they are back with us as developing children from the 1970’s and 80’s. Or we gave to go back to teaching or working because we are running out of money.

Hour after hour and day after day.

It is the way things are and always will be.